I have only just started sailing and my wife is already beating my eardrums in on going out sailing and leaving all my homely responsibilities to her. In fact if was a cause of an argument we had last week about me going out and leaving her to deal with 2 young children on the weekend.
Well I told her...
"This is the only life I am going to get, and I dont want to wake up one day when I'm 70 and realise that I have wasted it. You know all the miserable marriages you hear about? They are miserable people that have nothing outside their own relationship and their family. They put their life on hold to raise children and find any excuse to have a row, becuase beyond that they have nothing, and if you knew whats good for you you would find something you love too and get your teeth stuck into it, because if you don't, one day you will wake up old, tired and miserable and realise that although you have raised a family, you have also successfully managed to pi$$ you own life away..."
She hasn't said a word to me since about sailing, and I noticed her looking up TAFE courses for herself on the internet. Could this have been the speil of the century??? Hope it lasts...
Buy the kids wetsuits and offer/threaten to take them sailing with you. You wife will either be horrified at the thought of her kids bobbing around in the bay and will insist that you leave them at home (problem solved), or she will be delighted at the prospect (and then you've got to work out how to tow along the kids, which might improve your sail and board control).
It's a dilemma.
But always insist that she's allowed to spend on lingerie what you spend on gear.
Well if your wife does find a coarse to do it will be on the same days the wind is blowing.
So you will have to mined the kids while she is doing what she needs. therefore back to the argument of you are always doing coarses and not doing house hold duties.
I don't know it is all a crazy world, hang on the winds up I'm out of here I hope my wife doesn't see me leave.
walt
I read somewhere once that to be happy in life a person needs 3 things,
To be content in their job, to be in a happy relationship and to have an interest outside of these 2 areas.
My wife is a psychologist and fortunately she believes in this as well. Her passion is painting and so luckily she can look after the kids whilst painting. Perhaps suggest your missus takes up art?
When the forecast isn't looking so good offer to take the kids out and give her free time and pray the bureau don't get it wrong. Once you have earnt brownie points you should be right to go when the winds up. Good luck.
(Loved the comment about lingerie)
Does anyone else have more relationship vs windsurfing clashes during summer than winter (assuming you sail in both)?
I was terrible over christmas with watching the graphs on watkins to see if the seabreeze was good - this involved watching the graph from 2pm to 6pm most days.
Winter is loads better. The BOM bets its mortgage on it being windy on a given day, usually 3 days ahead, and then it happens. Ok it's colder but it's so much better for relationships..
Ginger Pom is this your recon before popping the question.
Just make sure you choose an understanding one first up.... and keep a very accurate track of brownie points (as long as you can build then up)
This was also in The Age recently- just trade sex for windsurfing credits and the work around home can be board and sail repairs.http://www.essence.com/relationships/men/horny_housework_cleaning_might_help_sex.php
The key to a successful marriage is to do what the wife wants.
However you may end up feeling miserable. The only thing I can suggest is to help around the house more, do the washing up, cook dinner, help with the kids etc on a very regular basis. Its unlikely many women would not appreciate that and in return they would be a b!tch if they didn't let you enjoy windsurfing when its windy.
Good luck.
No its not happened yet.
I went out on the babies due date
Maybe somethings buildling up
So my going out sailing became an issue again so I bit the bullet...
Me: "I am selling my kit, I just dont get the time"
Wife: "What? Why"
Me: "Cause me going sailings always an issue, and face it, I cant schedule the wind around your plans, so I may as well throw in the towel"
Wife: "Well if you feel that way about it..."
Me: "I'm getting a motor bike!"
Wife: "Oh no! You can go sailing as much as you want but you are not getting a bike"
Me: "Theres, nothing you can say to change my mind. I can ride to work and back and it will not affect your schedule, and besides I will save money on city parking"
Wife: "You can go sailing every day for all I care, but there is no way in hell you are getting a motor bike, you have kids and a family""
Me: "But eveytime i go out you are going to get pi$$ed at me..."
Wife: "I promise i will not get pissed. I rather you be out sailing then dead under a truck."
Me: "OK fine, but if start giving me evils or making me feel guilty for going out I am selling the kit and getting a motorbike"
Wife: "Not gonna happen."
What a bluff! (I had no intention of getting a bike!) Luckily she doesn't read seabreeze!
sounds like your in the bad books there son. you better be carefull or she might snapp
chicks can be real nasty
chicks can be real nasty
Got home from work yesturday and my wife said:
Wife: "Weather is nice today"
Me: "Yeah - pretty warm"
Wife: "You should go sailling"
Me: "Nah, theres no wind"
Wife: "maybe tomorrow"
me: "Can't, going out for beers with the guys"
Wife: "Friday then?"
Me: "Friday sounds good."
...and another phone conversation today:
Wife: "Think we could go check out the sales on saturday or sunday at Chadstone?"
Me: "We'll see"
Wife: "That is if theres no wind. Maybe we can go early in the morning? You can go sailing after that?"
huh....
I am starting to feel like a prick. I think that she is using reverse psychology to make me feel like an a$$hole. Or she may still be worried about me going and getting on a bike. I need to test the boundries of this new found generosity, it seems suspicious.
Nah, that sounds like one of our conversations @home. The missus knows that she & kids rate on the top of my list, but she also knows that when the wind's about...I'm either off in dreamland, or grumpy as hell if I'm not sailing, I don't mean to be, just happens. A couple of hours on the water & I'm good to go!
Sounds like your relationship is growing & balancing out...
...either that, or she's up to something?!?[}:)]
She taught me to windsurf and we sail together as often as possible, so I REALLY DO feel for you guys.
She just said the winds up so gotta go.
MADINC
Select to expand quotejermaldan said...
How could I have missed it.... SHOPPING CHADSTONE!!!! She wants clothes!!! Sneaky B.....
Kawindsurf : is that wife of yours still nagging ya dude?????
"Does any company make neoprene baby carriers that you can strap to your back...? Just asking"
Can't you just find a baby cot that floats and cobble together a sail out a plastic bag and some metal coathangers?
If you get a flat bottomed cot the lil beast might even get it planing!
