I'm one of typical keen beginner/intermediate sailers who has ended up on bigger and bigger gear in the quest to get going. Probably the bad example your mother warned you about.
Yes i I have been suitably and sometimes relentlessly admonished for the large gear choices I have made. Some would still have me on learner boards admonishing me for having gear that is too 'technical' even if I am having fun and remaining in the sport
Occasionally by sailers standing watching not going out in light winds because they like wind a little more developed = yes I was on 'uncool' large gear but was able to go sailing
The common call being ' you can get going on smaller gear' and yes even on sailing days when I see my experienced sailing buddy get going on 2m smaller 'cam' sail there was me with or without cams 1-2m bigger however I'm out having fun on the plane. Sometimes it is what it is...
My long standing argument is that I didn't end up on large gear by accident! It's what it took to progress and get going in a wide variety of conditions.
I relate to the frustration the Op must feel being out on the water not going whilst those around him are going maybe in smaller gear. Look around at see what others are sailing at your level
My my son races 293 techno at 75kg and has recently upgraded to techno plus (8.5 cam 50cm fin) from techno (7.8 46 fin). The main reason for the upgrade is to balance the racing against the lightweight kids who plan easily in light winds = typically 10-12 knots At your weight on a techno the larger sail will give you more planing time in light winds
Depends on what you what you want from your sailing. Schlogging around not getting going but staying on the gear that will/maybe get you going when you have enough experience planing to know how to get little gear planing => oh the irony (another day lost) or going bigger get planing and learn a lot about handling bigger gear than when you have much more experience you can work your way back down in size ... board and sail.
All in all what's to loose going bigger?? The board can handle it. What's not to like about getting going vs watching others get going
cams?. I started with free ride 6.7 north on proper mast. 90kg beginner. I received many useful suggestions on how to rig it = all different! Then there was the day I rigged a hand me down cam sail (old Bic 6.8) couldn't believe how much easier to handle. Without hesitation I then started collecting ezzy lions (2cam) and not regretted the sailing performance since 7.5 8.5 and 9.5
If you fall for windsurfing you will collect gear that's gets you going ... period. That may mean, as it was for me, Old long boards, big fat boards, old school narrow boards and whatever is cheap on gumtree as try and see. Yes the early purchace dollars are difficult but it gets easier
if you get frustrated at not getting the 7.3 going and are hesitant to go bigger than find an old school longboard (lightning F2 etc) you will then have a different way to enjoy light winds
A video capturing those early successes with planing.. light winds ...getting into footstraps. On big gear (for which I received much derision) absolutely enjoying myself. Note my mentor (very experienced) couldn't get going on his smaller gear and got out the old Wally to have a sail.
Reviewing this its it's turned into a bit of a ramble ,, trying to say I sense and relate to the desire to get going in lighter winds. For me it was a journey into larger and alternate gear. With more experience my most common sail is still the 8.5 however I'm much more equivalent to others on similar gear these days. Interestingly I don't often see the 'get going with small' sailers out on days when I'm having fun on my big gear.... or they are sailing their Wally one designs (also a usefull Avenue to explore)
cheers Jeff
Ps My son now can use my big gear to get going when most of us including experienced sailers are sitting on beach. ... there also alternatives. Foils and windSups went out.