An interesting topic for sure.
IMHO, the flex top sails probably handle very similar in regards to your question as those designed for those masts. They take a different approach to producing pretty much the same feel in that regard. Putting a more flex top mast in a CC designed sail never worked for me. It looked fuller and more twisted but was always slower. I tried it with both SDM and RDM's. In the end we got far better results from changes in the actual sail shape.
On the other hand, I agree with you completely re the RDM feelings and that is why - as a lighter guy- I use them in most of my slalom and speed sails.
I dont find any penalty to 'bottom end' pull on RDM's but that may just be particular to my sails -designed specifically for RDM - and the conditions I sail in.
Adding weight in my case seems to add some nice stability to me in 'on edge' conditions, and does allow the sail to 'breathe' a bit better. It is of course, only really an advantage in
fully powered conditions on a speed course and I very rarely use more than about 5-6Kg (went to 8+ at Luderitz, and most of the top heavy guys were wearing 10, or more!

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