I am 6'2" with a seat harness that puts my hook a couple of inches below my navel, and even with my boom at chin height, found that shorter lines led me to either spread my hands miles wide apart on the boom, which wasn't comfortable or intuitive. The alternative was to work with bent elbows, which resulted in some serious tendon discomfort on the inside of my elbows. (Took a couple of months to go away)
Yes, as an early intermediate I was probably pulling on the boom more with my arms than I should've been,

but any arm input was through a very bent elbow which is not a good thing.
Getting away from the boom more gives you more room to move and react, straightens out your elbows without giving you a crazy wide grip, and also allows the rig to be more vertical when you're leaning right out against it.
I have adjustable lines now too, and have them set at their longest setting. Still a bit short I think, but miles better for posture and elbow comfort.
With regard to spacing between the lines on the boom, I have found that close lines make the sail much more responsive to changes in the wind, and you have to be much more active in your sail control. Widening them right out makes it really easy to sail, but you need to get them centred around the right place on the boom or you end up inadvertently sailing slightly over or undersheeted because you can't feel the pressure changes in your hands as well.
1/3rd back is a good start for your front line, and then the back line a couple of hand widths behind that. Depends on your sail trim though, so you have to experiment a bit, or just suck up the difference with your arms and for-go that poserish double hand drag nonsense

A cammed sail is less prone to changes in the centre of pressure, so close is good, but a North Tonic (no-cams) that I sailed on one occasion almost killed my arms with the constantly shifting C of P before I widened the lines out.
It's probably one of those things that you find a happy medium and just go with that. 90% of the sailors out there (me included) will never notice that extra .02 of a knot that they're missing out on by not having 100% perfect trim, especially seeing as we are probably doing at least three other things "wrong" too..
As long as you're enjoying yourself and not causing any injuries or breaking stuff, I reckon that's nearly good enough!