The slower you sail, the less stable sails will feel in gusts. Since you are not comfortable in the footstraps, your speeds will be on the low side, which means you feel the gusts much more than better sailors. As you get better, your sails will start feeling more stable.
There are several things that cause this. One is the change in the apparent wind angle in gusts. Another one is related to sheeting in. Typically, intermediate windsurfers are slower, and their sails are not fully sheeted in. When a gust hits, the change in apparent wind angle causes a lot more pressure on the back hand. When you (automatically) sheet out, the front of the sail gets backwinded, and you need to push hard with the front arm. There's a detailed discussion with diagrams of this at
boardsurfr.blogspot.com/2011/01/sheet-in.htmlThe bottom line is that this is a technique issue much more than a sail issue (assuming that you rig your sails decently). For someone learning to be comfortable in the foot straps, a sail may have a narrow range from 8 to 10 m/s. Below 8, he can't plane and/or get in the straps; above 10, and he feels overpowered. An expert sailor might be reasonably comfortable on the same sail over a much wide wind range, perhaps from 6 to 12 m/s. Not that he'd necessarily sail the same sail over the entire range, but he could.
So if you have money to spend on windsurfing, investing into lessons rather than new sails will probably give you more bang for the buck. Plenty of good instructors on Maui, including Matt Pritchard. If there are none in your area, plan your next windsurf trip around a windsurf clinic, or at a resort with decent instructors.