What's fair ? Where do you draw the line? At what point do you say enough is enough?

Mine has been way out of whack recently. Today I took action and was handsomely rewarded. Looking forward to getting a bit more back tom as well. I love my work but it's incredible how I let it take over sometimes. It's always been a problem for me as I like to do things well and I am fortunate that I enjoy my work so much - so it never feels like a chore. But it's no excuse - keep it fair and honest and catch as many waves as you can I love the internet - but because my livelihood practically depends on it I can not stop checking my emails and answering them whilst cruising sites I enjoy - need to instigate some childhood proof settings to stop me after hours !! But still retaining my cruising the net rights

Good topic.
Not going to get in to it now but will post a considered response tomorrow.
Just deleted 4 lines of speed typing, as I was off and running!!!!
Has to involve family too.....ahhhh, just click "post"

Well Ted I came to my own decisions recently too , I asked myself basically "How many hard yards have you done Pup - Pup's mind answered too farking many over the past few years Pup old mate ... too farking many!!!!"
Then I asked myself " Well if that's the case do you want to keep working at a place where there's so many cocksmokers , selfish pr!cks & farks that you wouldn't piss on in case you wasted good urine - Pup's mind was quick to respond with " Fark that shizz Pup - tell 'em to get farked & emigrate to God's backyard , geez mate you could surf with the Gods like Asea , Chrispy , V12 , Ted , Lacey , Boof , ET , Jase , SP , Scotty , RG , Weiry , theBroker , Ocky , SimGrommito , Obs & MR & even our McT slut not to mention all the rest of the froffs at those farking magnificent points ......"
So then I said to myself " Geez Pup you got the right idea I'm likin' your way of thinkin' champion - Pup's mind was swift in it's response " Yeah well sometimes ya gotta look after what means the most mate - fark 'em all , the smile on ya dial & hookin' up with true champions is where it's at "

An age old topic Mr Ted and one that has puzzled me for a very long time. I am 60 this year and I still don't have the answer nor am I any closer to finding it.
The PUPMEISTERS comments above just about sum it all up, but sometimes when you are just getting ready to travel down that road or put the quiver on the roof and take off, whammo reality hits you fair and square in the face.
Life and work balance is really difficult to attain at a high quality sometimes. Just when you think you have it right something hits you from left field and stuffs it up again.

I don't know the answer, but I do know that you need to give yourself time and space away from things that pressurise you. Be that work, family, partners or just the area you live in.
We are lucky as surfers to have the ocean to fall back on. We all know that no matter how bad your day has been, if you can get wet and maybe catch a wave or two life looks a lot rosier.
Then when you score an epic day and cruise or rip the award is handed to you. Things that were getting you down don't seem so bad and even your mother-in-law seems like a reasonable person.
This is the freward that being a surfer presents every time your enter the water. This might sound like crap to some but I really believe that "Only a Surfer knows the feeling".

So what do we do about it. Take regular holidays that encompass surfing a favourite place or a new destination. Keep in touch with like minded people. Keep your gear ready to use at a moments notice. Make sure your lifestyle revolves around surfing. Create a surf photo gallery in your man cave.
Work to live don't live to work.
Encourage your family to be involved so that you can share the stoke.
Have alternate equipment that can be used regardless of conditions, longboards, md-lengths, 666's etc etc. this gets you in the water no matter what it's like. It also broadens your horizons and gives you flexibility in your style and skills.

But I think that for me the most important thing is to stay focused on what gives me pleasure and to ensure I indulge in that pleasure as often as possible.

Better stop rambling.

Cheers.
ET.

I always keep a board in my car these days...squeeze in an hours surf b4 or after work and life's good

well ted i find this post funny.
you know the answer to your own question.

I'm oh so humbled to make your list Pup,even if you revert to name calling

Ted life can become a marry go round, you can stop it any time you choose
or stay on the bandwagon like some hey ?

Great topic Ted..
Totally agree with you Pup & ET...sometimes you forget to take time out and evaluate your life...just keep doing the do..bit of a weekend surf...a few reds at night...bit of "contact" Roll on..roll on..then Bang..the penny drops...This is my one life...faaarrkk!!

I'm at the silver side of life and worked in the corporate world for most of it..until the body started to tell me it didn't like the pressure (most of which was self induced)..I had all the tests and they came up with..nuthin'..but stress...everyone could see it but me.

So..dumped the long time job with security/perks/$$ and took another tack and now work 3 days/wk..get more water/relaxation/family time..and cant wait till later (soon) to stop altogether.

More froth time= good life.

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Macaha said...
I'm oh so humbled to make your list Pup,even if you revert to name calling

Ted life can become a marry go round, you can stop it any time you choose
or stay on the bandwagon like some hey ?

You love it you big McT harlot's blouse ..... carn the Maroons

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thePup said...
Well Ted I came to my own decisions recently too , I asked myself basically "How many hard yards have you done Pup - Pup's mind answered too farking many over the past few years Pup old mate ... too farking many!!!!"
Then I asked myself " Well if that's the case do you want to keep working at a place where there's so many cocksmokers , selfish pr!cks & farks that you wouldn't piss on in case you wasted good urine - Pup's mind was quick to respond with " Fark that shizz Pup - tell 'em to get farked & emigrate to God's backyard , geez mate you could surf with the Gods like Asea , Chrispy , V12 , Ted , Lacey , Boof , ET , Jase , SP , Scotty , RG , Weiry , theBroker , Ocky , SimGrommito , Obs & MR & even our McT slut not to mention all the rest of the froffs at those farking magnificent points ......"
So then I said to myself " Geez Pup you got the right idea I'm likin' your way of thinkin' champion - Pup's mind was swift in it's response " Yeah well sometimes ya gotta look after what means the most mate - fark 'em all , the smile on ya dial & hookin' up with true champions is where it's at "

Pup, this is one of the best posts I have read in a while. You have a way with words. I work 7-5ish and 50 hours a week is enough for me. I detest working late so I'd rather come in at 5am and work by myself then stay late. Come 5-530 im out the door!!

Some great responses here chaps. On the whole my work life balance is fantastic to be honest. I guess what I was trying to say was that at times I struggle to stop doing work when I shouldn't! My neighbour is a public servant and I have never seen him do any work in the evenings or the weekend - its like if its not done during the normal working hours it gets done the next day! Amazing. It does not work like that in my line of work. When it needs to be done it has to be done. I am very good at trying to make up for the extra stuff I do but sometimes I just do not switch off. I guess that was what I was alerting to. There is always something to be done!

I knew you were on top of it Ted thats why I didn't bother with a half desent reply.

The missus & I both work 4 days a week. I plan on doing that until I hit 60, changing to 3 days a week until I can afford to retire with enough money to travel at least once a year. I think thats a pretty fair work life balance.

I work to live and still at this age in life at 45 still can't wait for a surf and still dream of chest high glassy no crowd days

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asea said...
I work to live and still at this age in life at 45 still can't wait for a surf and still dream of chest high glassy no crowd days

Asea nailed it

I must admit I'm a bit out of balance at the moment, I've surfed fark all since I did my shoulder. I'm keen to, just work, new house, Reno and a bub on the way have all just taken my spare time and it's always surfing that gets flicked to the back burner.

Good posts boys... I have just put in for a few days off.

^ Congratz on the Bub

All the best SP, surfing might be on the back burner for a while when the new bub arrives.

Yep as the brothers have said - best ones to both of you with SP jnr

oh this kills me ...

i work from home, my wife has a job 2 days a week. we surf pretty much every day other than those days she works. recently she says she might quit. Im like **** when will i get any work done

if she was home every day she would be like " are you ready yet? whats the tide doing ? " SERIOUSLY

but everyday i dont surf i get real ****ty by 5... soo i dont know i guess the balance is on the nose

yewo
ps. i love surfing with her, best mates.

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jasdeking said...
oh this kills me ...

i work from home, my wife has a job 2 days a week. we surf pretty much every day other than those days she works. recently she says she might quit. Im like **** when will i get any work done

if she was home every day she would be like " are you ready yet? whats the tide doing ? " SERIOUSLY

but everyday i dont surf i get real ****ty by 5... soo i dont know i guess the balance is on the nose

yewo
ps. i love surfing with her, best mates.

Jas that's what I call making someone jealousGood luck to you oh by the way I will be off to you're secret spot soon hope there is a wave

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asea said...

jasdeking said...
oh this kills me ...

i work from home, my wife has a job 2 days a week. we surf pretty much every day other than those days she works. recently she says she might quit. Im like **** when will i get any work done

if she was home every day she would be like " are you ready yet? whats the tide doing ? " SERIOUSLY

but everyday i dont surf i get real ****ty by 5... soo i dont know i guess the balance is on the nose

yewo
ps. i love surfing with her, best mates.

Jas that's what I call making someone jealousGood luck to you oh by the way I will be off to you're secret spot soon hope there is a wave

message it mate would be great to catch up this time round

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jasdeking said...
oh this kills me ...

i work from home, my wife has a job 2 days a week. we surf pretty much every day other than those days she works. recently she says she might quit. Im like **** when will i get any work done

if she was home every day she would be like " are you ready yet? whats the tide doing ? " SERIOUSLY

but everyday i dont surf i get real ****ty by 5... soo i dont know i guess the balance is on the nose

yewo
ps. i love surfing with her, best mates.

This post should be moved to the jealousy forum...how do you pull off such a life jas? Am guessing having a missus that surfs would help eh? Think of us poor souls who are being forced to visit ikea by the better half while your getting water time with yours.

^^^^+1

what asea said

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Macaha said...
what asea said

why

I have been jealous of Jas since I first read his posts.

Who wouldn't be:-
He lives on the Sunshine Coast.
He works from home.
His wife is lovely.
He surfs,
She surfs,
She nags him to go surfing,
They surf together,
Their boards are beautiful colours,
They often get point waves with few crowds,
If Noosa is crap they go to D.I.

Aw farrrrkkkk me, I just made myself jealous.

ET.

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Ctngoodvibes said...

jasdeking said...
oh this kills me ...

i work from home, my wife has a job 2 days a week. we surf pretty much every day other than those days she works. recently she says she might quit. Im like **** when will i get any work done

if she was home every day she would be like " are you ready yet? whats the tide doing ? " SERIOUSLY

but everyday i dont surf i get real ****ty by 5... soo i dont know i guess the balance is on the nose

yewo
ps. i love surfing with her, best mates.

This post should be moved to the jealousy forum...how do you pull off such a life jas? Am guessing having a missus that surfs would help eh? Think of us poor souls who are being forced to visit ikea by the better half while your getting water time with yours.

she used to ride horses .. sell a saddle to upgrade a saddle

now she still rides horses ... but sell a saddle to buy a new board

you guys know the addiction... she ( we ) has it bad

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E T said...
I have been jealous of Jas since I first read his posts.

Who wouldn't be:-
He lives on the Sunshine Coast.
He works from home.
His wife is lovely.
He surfs,
She surfs,
She nags him to go surfing,
They surf together,
Their boards are beautiful colours,
They often get point waves with few crowds,
If Noosa is crap they go to D.I.

Aw farrrrkkkk me, I just made myself jealous.

ET.

Hmmm starting to dislike this Jas' bloke

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E T said...
I have been jealous of Jas since I first read his posts.

Who wouldn't be:-
He lives on the Sunshine Coast.
He works from home.
His wife is lovely.
He surfs,
She surfs,
She nags him to go surfing,
They surf together,
Their boards are beautiful colours,
They often get point waves with few crowds,
If Noosa is crap they go to D.I.

Aw farrrrkkkk me, I just made myself jealous.

ET.

+1

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MickPC said...
^ Congratz on the Bub

Thanks Mick and the other for the kind words,. Can't wait.

If not surfing as much for a while means I have a happy partner and child then I'll take that any day..