I recently wrote an article on my blog giving 5 Tips for surfers who are traveling with girlfriends, boyfriends, spouse, partners who don't surf.

http://balifloatingleaf.com/surf-trips-with-companions-who-dont-surf/

Would love to get your take...

What has been your experience traveling with others that don't? Have been able to get enough surf time? Has it caused problems? Most importantly, what tips can you share that help you get the most surfing in while keeping your partner happy?

Regards,
Dino

Welcome to the breeze and good article.

I'll share with you my take on the topic.

First up any girl I've been involved with have shared a love for the ocean and beach.Thats always a good starting point.
None have surfed but always happy relaxing/sun baking on the worlds best beaches right here.The key on these surf trips is make sure there is something for the girls to do while your surfing,beit an hour or two or the whole day.Lets face it,would you take your female partner on a boat trip or some isolated jungle,no in most cases. I've travelled to Hawaii and Bali,we don't stay in out of town hotels,we stay within walking distance to shops, spas and all things girls like to do,I don't take my partner to the other side of the island where there is nothing for her to do,I go alone as she enjoys the girlie things,if I'm back early its often said, your back early the surf no good hey.As years pass she rarely goes to the beach,she is more than happy chilling around the hotel/villa pool,all those sun smart ads must have worked, not many spend the whole day covered in baby oil getting fried.She will do some shopping and have a nice lunch.Anybody taking their female partner to an isolated place is looking for trouble there's only so much one can take.

Wish I could help

She surfs, kites, windsurfs, dives, mt bikes, road bikes, hikes, camps, white water kayaks, doesn't like shopping and spent a year working in a vet clinic so she's pretty handy around a medico pack (which is good when I'm around - I don't mean to hurt my self if just kinda happens).

I need to go find a really loud countdown timer now though we're taking turns.

@62mac, I agree and should have mentioned that in my article. A remote, tropical beach could be a beautiful and very enticing destination for both, but that won't last, especially if I'm spending hours in the water. She'll want to spend time with me, which means I'm not surfing or she'll need things to do that appeal to women.

That being said, I have always loved traveling alone, but have done quite enough of that. I prefer traveling with a girlfriend these days so I appreciate your feedback. And thanks for the compliment on my article.

@CrazyCanuk,...Lucky man.

Regards,
Dino

Count my stars every morning, she would have left me long ago if we didn't share a passion for water sports.

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cRAZY Canuk said...
Count my stars every morning, she would have left me long ago if we didn't share a passion for water sports.

+1 Crazy I am in the same boat as you my missus loves to do everything I do I knew I was going to marry her the first time I saw her gut skin and fillet a 3 kilo tailor

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boofy said...

cRAZY Canuk said...
Count my stars every morning, she would have left me long ago if we didn't share a passion for water sports.

+1 Crazy I am in the same boat as you my missus loves to do everything I do I knew I was going to marry her the first time I saw her gut skin and fillet a 3 kilo tailor

Boofy I'm still bunned you didn't marry me

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62mac said...
Boofy I'm still bunned you didn't marry me

we would have been good together

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boofy said...

62mac said...
Boofy I'm still bunned you didn't marry me

we would have been good together

Geez harlots

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boofy said...

62mac said...
Boofy I'm still bunned you didn't marry me

we would have been good together

+1 Crazy. We learnt to surf, dive, ski (or board), SUP together. I'm teaching her to skate and we have plans to learn to kite together.

She's also partial to a bit of clothing optional beach going too which suits me just fine.

i have a giggle at this

my wife surfs, sups, is a dive master , we met both sailing as crew on the 12 meter yacht gretel , she owns a cool truck for 4wd trips , also rides horses ( so i only get to eat every 2nd day )

going on a surf trip, deserted island , fishing trip anything outdoors ..?

you tell her she isnt coming i'm too scared

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jasdeking said...
i have a giggle at this

my wife surfs, sups, is a dive master , we met both sailing as crew on the 12 meter yacht gretel , she owns a cool truck for 4wd trips , also rides horses ( so i only get to eat every 2nd day )

going on a surf trip, deserted island , fishing trip anything outdoors ..?

you tell her she isnt coming i'm too scared

She sounds great mate my wife has had horses most of her life to and ridden all around the world in dressage and cross country we havent got horses at the moment but the kids are getting lessons.
The first night of our honeymoon we spent sleeping on a tarp on the headland at Bells then went on a month long camping trip in SA Wineries etc with 2 dogs and a Zodiac inflatable then up to Broken Hill with my 30/30 and .222 where we got some supplies to go pig hunting I remember telling the shopkeeper that we were on our honeymoon and she looked at me and said geez your a charmer I said talk to my wife it was her idea

I got nothing after reading that Boof.

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Ted the Kiwi said...
I got nothing after reading that Boof.

I bet you have mate I always feel like I havent given it a good go when I read about your travels and the places you have been and surfed

Sold.

Next girlfriend is going to be Aussie.

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Fiducci said...
Sold.

Next girlfriend is going to be Aussie.

hahaha classic

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Fiducci said...
Sold.

Next girlfriend is going to be Aussie.

thats a good start mate

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jasdeking said...
i have a giggle at this

my wife surfs, sups, is a dive master , we met both sailing as crew on the 12 meter yacht gretel , she owns a cool truck for 4wd trips , also rides horses ( so i only get to eat every 2nd day )

going on a surf trip, deserted island , fishing trip anything outdoors ..?

you tell her she isnt coming i'm too scared

Forgot sailing

I love the 12m's got to do bow on Intrepid for a weekend of racing in Newport filling in for a friend was a massive tick on my list racing a true classic (the wife came down to race a Farr 40). Still want to race a J-Class but I might have been out of the game too long now.

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jasdeking said...

Fiducci said...
Sold.

Next girlfriend is going to be Aussie.

thats a good start mate

Mine Canadian- bit closer to home. Learn to sail and find the hot chick at the bar out drinking all the blokes - that's the one you want.

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cRAZY Canuk said...

jasdeking said...
i have a giggle at this

my wife surfs, sups, is a dive master , we met both sailing as crew on the 12 meter yacht gretel , she owns a cool truck for 4wd trips , also rides horses ( so i only get to eat every 2nd day )

going on a surf trip, deserted island , fishing trip anything outdoors ..?

you tell her she isnt coming i'm too scared

Forgot sailing

I love the 12m's got to do bow on Intrepid for a weekend of racing in Newport filling in for a friend was a massive tick on my list racing a true classic (the wife came down to race a Farr 40). Still want to race a J-Class but I might have been out of the game too long now.

thats awesome mate..

i did the bow for a couple of seasons on a smaller boat. being a heftier lad they said it couldnt be done :) but i managed .. i remember walking up the deck to set up, while beating up wind to a mark, they said " he looks like a dog having a ****"

one of my best mates back then did the whitbread... twice !!!! ... i still have the rothmans top he gave me

this was on Gretel 20 yrs back. Sitting in the rigging KA1 shorts and all

Just don't bother! I had a mad ex with borderline personality disorder. Every time I would get comfortable surfing she would have a psychotic fit and drive home without me.

She did this twice from Byron Bay. It is not my fault the place is full of beautiful women; all I wanted to do was hang ten! Once from a comp at Crescent Head. Then a near attempt from a comp in Sydney where I won one division. These prominent surfers from the 60's were complimenting my style after the presentation and she runs in demanding that if I am not in the car in five minutes she was going home without me.

Like most of these mad bitches she believed It was all my fault. Even if she had tried to run me over with the car or stab me, this is the story she would tell others and the authorities. The typical result was like the time I had this oversized bogan try to belt me at s caravan park. Luckily, I saw the beefcake coming to grab me as I was picking up a kayak and got him a sharp elbow up the jaw knocking him into a fence. I recommended he stop drinking during the day. Lucky too the sympathetic park manager informed me the bogan had phoned the cops. I guess he had seen this happen more than once before?

The funniest thing was that after I finally got rid of her she went to Byron with this gay ex-neighbour who incidetally made the best hash cookies. As the first confessed homosexual to successfully sue under anti discrimination legislation, he was one extra harmless cream puf. He had the most hilarious story to tell me about how she had a crazy turn and started throwing his designer wear out of the tent into the rain and mud. He got the plane home!

So if you sense your partner suffers pathological jealousy that will make her impossible to please, don't even think of taking her on a surf trip. My tip is piss her off now! Oh, and to the hero and his mates who stood up for her at the Crescent comp, I hope you all married one of these crazy bitches!

I think I'm the opposite to most of you.

My wife doesn't surf and that's the way I like it. We do EVERYTHING together, so when I paddle out its ME time. And surfing is really spiritual like that. Takes my mind off the small things and lets me see the bigger picture.

Wifey is also very happy to be on a beach reading a book or getting a massage. So as long as we pick tropical surf destinations its all good!

I feel for you shane, my court'n days were 40 years past, but I still recall the crazy I made the mistake with.

This is a creed everyone should live by, and not just the guys.

There should also be one that says, "never let crazy stick its dick in you"



BTW, my dear lady would prefer to dine on a Maggot Sandwich rather than set one toe on a beach, she's never been the least bit interested in anything outsy doorsy that I do, I even go on holidays on my own because she's so disgusted at the thought of driving long distances and roughing it.

2 days ago, we celebrated our 36th anniversary, and I could not wish for a happier 36 years, yet we have almost nothing in common, go figure

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obct said...
I feel for you shane, my court'n days were 40 years past, but I still recall the crazy I made the mistake with.

This is a creed everyone should live by, and not just the guys.

There should also be one that says, "never let crazy stick its dick in you"



BTW, my dear lady would prefer to dine on a Maggot Sandwich rather than set one toe on a beach, she's never been the least bit interested in anything outsy doorsy that I do, I even go on holidays on my own because she's so disgusted at the thought of driving long distances and roughing it.

2 days ago, we celebrated our 36th anniversary, and I could not wish for a happier 36 years, yet we have almost nothing in common, go figure

love it

Obct & Sham, I totally get it how you guys can have partners don't surf or even hate the beach, but make it work. That bit of personal space you get must be great for your mental health. A lot better than sending yourself insane trying to please a mad woman who does not know what she wants.

Hey, its might not be too hard to workout why I live on a boat with my dog avoiding relationships if not people in general? At least though I can look back on a lot of this stuff and laugh. Far too many men take these struggles serious and end up killing themselves!

Hey my wife loves the beach, just doesn't surf.

If she didn't like the beach that would be a tough sell! We spend too much time at or near them

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Sham1984 said...
Hey my wife loves the beach, just doesn't surf.

If she didn't like the beach that would be a tough sell! We spend too much time at or near them

Oops, I should change that to "don't surf or". My bad! Either way the space must be golden.

Haha all good. Seems like you had a rough trott on the last one. Can't give up though. Good things are always around the corner

you know what if my wife didn't surf i might not either

best mates