I suffer it

Its just not easy living ft with other ppl on a yacht.

I feel better when I get the place to myself. Than I'm happy!

Going to land doesn't really help...because all I do is worry about the bloody boat

Any solutions ?

Ha ha chopes I've got nothing

get a bigger boat.

I know what you are saying ChopesBro and when you have the wrong people aboard, your thoughts can become murderous.

Try living in the mess deck of a Navy ship with 30 odd other people and you only have any sort of rapport with one or two of the others or maybe none of them. To survive you need discipline and the right attitude. I know you don't want to hear this.

My wife and I have a mental strategy to deal with adverse conditions, be they physical like a storm, mental like being surrounded by arseholes or a run of bad luck, or financial when you just feel overwhelmed by expenses.

How we deal with it is by knowing and saying "This too will pass." Maintaining a positive mental attitude is a habit that most people have to learn. It does not come naturally these days with all the negativity that gets thrown at us from all around. Journalists are the worst culprits for spreading negativity and most of them can't even spell correctly.

Get rid of your "stinkin' thinkin' " and don't let yourself be SNIOP ed, IE, do not allow yourself to be Subject to Negative Influences of Other People.

Put one crab in a bucket and he will get out. Put more than one crab in a bucket and none of them will get out. As soon as one of them goes for freedom the others will drag him back down. Try it.

When Muhammed Ali shouted out "I am the greatest!!", he was not telling the world. He was telling himself!!!

Each of us need to pump ourselves up on a daily basis or we will go nowhere.

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. If that were not true we would still be living in caves. Think about it.

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andy59 said..
Ha ha chopes I've got nothing

Nah!! You have everything you need to sail the wrong way around the world.

You have my heart felt sympathy, It is a b*tch of a problem.

Cisco. ....I feel better just reading that!

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cisco said..

How we deal with it is by knowing and saying "This too will pass."

Anicca: is one of the essential doctrines and a part of three marks of existence in Buddhism, the doctrine asserts that all of conditioned existence, without exception, is "transient, evanescent, inconstant". All temporal things, whether material or mental, are compounded objects in a continuous change of condition, subject to decline and destruction.

Get rid of them.

Your island ? Your bills? And your unhappy?

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stupid said..
Get rid of them.

I like when Trim goes hunting for pigeons from 2am to 4am The hours of peace,
I like how she sleeps most of the day!
I don't like when she chews my logbook,iPad/phone charger cords, pees on my 7" memory queen bed mattress, try's to help me with mechanics, makes a mess of the kitty litter!
I've had male and female friends onboard for months days and weeks.....I do prefer when I get my girl back all to myself! My yacht that is not the cat!

ive just been on my boat for a week and i suffered it being by myself!!! kept losing power and this made living aboard that week a bit uncomfortable!

I've been living on my boat now since November, and I am loving it more and more. I have no t.v. and I only play music when I run the motor so as to save my batteries, but I'm happy as a pig in mud. Even taking the dinghy back to my boat in the rain in the middle of the night coming home from shift work doesn't dampen it. I love my two cats that are so happy to see me and I love that there is always someone not far away. New boats pull up with new people to meet. Everyone seems to be headed north and I have itchy feet to follow them.
I've had some good company lately as well, which makes the whole thing quite perfect. I have my guitar and flute on board, and I play them quite often when I'm alone, and just keeping the boat clean ... doing the housework... keeps me occupied. Then I go off in the early morning on the dinghy and throw a line in, and maybe catch a fish for a feed. I'm rather addicted actually. No cabin fever for me!

Careful McNautical, sounds like you're becoming addicted!

I spent a memorable five days last year not seeing or speaking to anyone whilst anchored off the reef. I read seven books in the time. I've found being alone very therapeutic.

Cabin fever can be ferocious, heres my experience. My ex gf and I got it after living aboard sailing for over a year. During a particularly cold and rainy period she said she'd had enough and wanted to go back to Australia, I was so glad to hear that I drove her to the nearest airport the next morning as fast as I could. That cured it

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southace said..
I like when Trim goes hunting for pigeons from 2am to 4am The hours of peace,
I like how she sleeps most of the day!
I don't like when she chews my logbook,iPad/phone charger cords, pees on my 7" memory queen bed mattress, try's to help me with mechanics, makes a mess of the kitty litter!
I've had male and female friends onboard for months days and weeks.....I do prefer when I get my girl back all to myself! My yacht that is not the cat!

Seriously Southace every picture of your cat we see is of it near the instrument panels, I'd be keeping an eye on it if I was you I think it's learning how your boat works, then one day you'll go to shore for something and your cat will up and sail away with your boat, or maybe I'm just paranoid.

I'm with you Chopes, I enjoy company on the boat but it doesn't take long for me to want the boat back to myself.

Im also the same when leaving the boat unatended.

My form of cabin fever is different. I head for a nice anchorage and tell myself I will stay there for three or four days. Then on the first evening I find myself studdying the chart for somewhere togo in the morning. It seems that if I keep moving I'm ok, but once I have visited a place and seen what it has to see then I can't wait to move on.

I spent a few weeks in the marina in Townsville and apart from boat maintenance I nearly died of boredom.

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japie said..
Careful McNautical, sounds like you're becoming addicted!

I spent a memorable five days last year not seeing or speaking to anyone whilst anchored off the reef. I read seven books in the time. I've found being alone very therapeutic.

Yes Japie, definitely addicted.

I love the solitude that being on anchor offers... solitude being different to loneliness. Solitude I love ... the choice to be alone as long as I feel like it, and the choice to come out of the solitude when I feel like company. That is perfect.

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McNaughtical said..

japie said..
Careful McNautical, sounds like you're becoming addicted!

I spent a memorable five days last year not seeing or speaking to anyone whilst anchored off the reef. I read seven books in the time. I've found being alone very therapeutic.

Yes Japie, definitely addicted.

I love the solitude that being on anchor offers... solitude being different to loneliness. Solitude I love ... the choice to be alone as long as I feel like it, and the choice to come out of the solitude when I feel like company. That is perfect.

There is a fine line between solitude and hiding from the world, but, you'll know your hiding when another boat anchors fifty metres from you and your first thought is "Time to find another anchorage".