Release the hounds...

Well there are several items to be argued there. Nah - even though they are generalising you are pretty spot on. As rick says also
compromise is the key.
Decide what you (really) want the most and go a
tad more in that direction. Be honest with yourself and don't expect too much of one without losing the other (ie reluanch vs upwind/flying forward in the window - generalising again).
I have to say the smaller 2 of my 3 kites (9m & 7m) are compromised towards good all round behaviour at the expense of a
little higher performance. They are 3 strut kites (brand isn't really important). I had in mind no way was I gonna even demo a 3 strut kite due to some of the reasons you state above. Well I gotta say I was very surprised at how much I liked these kites immediately and had to be thankful i tried them on a whim.
Now I should say I still wouldn't be that keen on a 3 strut kite bigger than 9/10m but they work fine (for me) at 7m&9m sizes.

As a more experianced kiter than I once said.. "The longer I kite - the less I know." So try as many kites - even on the periphery of what looks good on paper. You might get a surprise too.
Finally - to answer your question - I think it is fair to say generally that stability sacrifices a little performance and mags/kiters/advertisers expect more performance every year. Kinda like a honey trap - it looks to good to resist (at your peril).