Birth of my new Son 10 months ago is taking its toll.

Life is awesome, but I just don't have the time to exercise anymore.

Leave for work at 7, back at 6. Help with the misses around the house and I am wrecked.

Any tips?>

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Underoath said..
Birth of my new Son 10 months ago is taking its toll.

Life is awesome, but I just don't have the time to exercise anymore.

Leave for work at 7, back at 6. Help with the misses around the house and I am wrecked.

Any tips?>

contraception, but you asked this question a bit late.

roll with it and plan qlty sessions for a while don't be a stressed kiter

Time to come home big boy

Welcome to dadville
next you'll have another one, coz the little guy needs a playmate right.
And then there'll be almost no kiting for the next two years.
I haven't got any tips but I feel your pain

Fella above is onto it. One child is a holiday and she doesn't need you a great deal. Two and it's 'batter up' big fella. Remember vividly the mother in law on the ironing board, Missus in the kitchen and I got "we need to talk".

But now I kite with my son, so it's gets better. First five years is sheer hell. If you knew you wouldn't have them.

Its a difficult time the sacrifices you make starting a new family, but be reassured that the time you invest now pays back 10 fold as they grow up.
I let my fitness go way to much in my 30's and its a hard road back. Even if you cant find time to kite, try and keep in some sort of shape. Lunchtime runs, swims, body weight exercises at home whatever works for you.
Enjoy it, the kids will be big in a flash!

Absolutely what Dave said. Check out if there is a gym nearby or a work buddy so you keep each other honest. There are quite a few free apps for at home workouts that change every day. Keeping fit so you can do more stuff with the kids as they get older is a great motivator. FYI Two kids are harder at the start but much easier as they have someone to play with. Whenever I think I can't do something I remember my neighbour with triplets....

Highly recommended cycling to work.

Clears the mind, gets a sweat up... and it's fun!

Take the young one for a walk or run in his pram

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psychojoe said..
Welcome to dadville
next you'll have another one, coz the little guy needs a playmate right.
And then there'll be almost no kiting for the next two years.
I haven't got any tips but I feel your pain

It's certainly pretty difficult isn't it? I've always been 100% open and honest with my struggles becoming and being a dad as i've certainly found it challenging. Life went from being carefree with disposable income and so much free time to the complete opposite. Stacked on too many pies which is already a challenge when your a super heavy weight, stopped exercising (i couldn't even squat 100kgs now and 3 years ago that was a warm up set!), not to mention kiting daily and just when life started to become normal again....

As hard as it is, wait 7 or 8 more months and it's fkn awesome when they are proper little kids and you can do so much with them and bond so much better and they are also down to one sleep. Wait until you see the bond when #2 comes along. as hard as it is It's the best thing i have ever seen.

On the kiting front, i it's certainly hard! More so with work commitments than family but i recommend a good sleep routine. Not only can they sleep through the night but both my girls sleep for almost 2hrs at 1pm each day... Might not be able to kite all arvo but i will take an hour or 2 on my days off and Thursday and Friday are my next days off

just thank your lucky stars u got laid in the fist place u mug and that the child got its mothers decent looks and not your mush. on a positive note you wont be teaching that famous poo stance to others for a while instead look forward to bathing in pooy nappy's vomit down ure shirt the melt downs all 3 of you will have from time to time. my 2 cents worth dude do not have another one until the kid is old enough to look after its sibling.

in my experience it gets better with time dude. i hated the baby phase. just wait a little & it will be dad time then. you will see it gets awesome.

get a carrier called a tula and u can take the young lad out kiting with u. i did it a few times.

some other things to try with your problems

give up sugary drinks will stop you getting fatter
give up beating off in the train toilet on the way to work you have been seen.
be present at home.
support ure missus (the women deserves a medal for having a child for u) other women would of ran a mile.

repost ure all killer no filler vid also.

Haha jz i am at that age where i now wake up and think wtf am i doing with my life! I have not had a real job or worked hard in my life and now mid 30s!!! Right now im drinking coffee (a little hung over) waiting for the easterlies to drop to take the boat to the outers for a wave and then scuba for some crays for lunch. Ill then probs have a nap after lunch. Then groundhog day again and ill reluctantly pump up my 7m and test my new board i picked up yesterday on the way to lanos for a kite. 2 weeks ago i wanted change, responsibilities in my life, someone to depend on me, a purpose one could say, so i bought a gold fish. It died soon after and things are now back to normal.

So that's why you haven't been flying anything smaller than a 12m..................You Fat Bastard

Some good advice on here me thinks but hey i've never had kids so wouldn't have a clue i've just observed that mates with kids priorities change as they should and once they have 2 young ones under 3 it seems to get very hard for them to get out much. I reckon the rewards out weigh losing a bit of time on the water for a couple of seasons.

And then there's Jono's perspective both have their merits.

I reckon Jono didn't take the goldfish outta the plastic bag filled with water he bought it in. Poor little bugger

Also if anyones kited south america please pm me as ill be that way later this year (for waves (coke cough cough) not flat water). Was thinking 1 month peru and 1 month brazil/or simply back to portugal which is always dependable.

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Underoath said..
Birth of my new Son 10 months ago is taking its toll.

Life is awesome, but I just don't have the time to exercise anymore.

Leave for work at 7, back at 6. Help with the misses around the house and I am wrecked.

Any tips?>

... embrace it dude, get a bigger kite and don't sweat the small stuff.

Beer helps you care less.

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Jonopark said..
Also if anyones kited south america please pm me as ill be that way later this year (for waves (coke cough cough) not flat water). Was thinking 1 month peru and 1 month brazil/or simply back to portugal which is always dependable.

I love the hyjack!! These guys are crying out for help and you are just rubbing salt in their child's eyes.

When you are old and fat from too many fishbowls with underage girls in Pattaya and can't afford to travel anymore, youll miss little "Nemo"

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bjw said..
I love the hyjack!! These guys are crying out for help and you are just rubbing salt in their child's eyes.
When you are old and fat from too many fishbowls with underage girls in Pattaya and can't afford to travel anymore, youll miss little "Nemo"

Classic!!

Went through exactly the same thjng at your stage of life. Took up jogging. Wouldn't recommend that. Jog now pay later , took the weight off tho. Knowing what I know now. Get a bit in on cycle path . Stay off the roads . Too many a holes can't put down their phones and state governments lack the balls to deliver adequate deterrents.

i hear those things go for a motza on the black market

Don't despair Unders... look at it this way... you and Sibbo can run off together into the kite sunset when it all gets too much!

Ok. Here's my advice. Sit the missis down and explain that you love her and the baby very much. BUT you will go postal worker and kill everyone with a machete if you don't get an exercise fix a couple of time a week at least.

Book one afternoon per weekend for the rest of your life. Don't ask each weekend. That's just stupid. Set it up once for a lifetime. Then its booked and she will have to come to you to negotiate alternative arrangements,

Do the same for one evening per week as well. In turn, she should also be able to have some woman time away for an equal amount of time.

Make sure you have kiting equipment for 6-50 knots of wind. Then you can take advantage of any snippet of wind or stupid storm.
Have another non-wind-related sport. For me, that's mountain biking. I can ride my bike at all sorts of stupid times of that day or night. So when kiting isn't on I can ride.

You might get some pushback and emotional female mental abuse. Hold your ground and stick to the plan. Ultimately its better for both of you if you get some man time/woman time and couple time. If she doesn't agree, trade her in for a one that does!

What a beautiful day! How could one not be active! Theres surf, good vis, nice winds and perfect temp. #perth
Jason buy a power cage/rack, adjustable bench and olympic bar with weights. 500 to 1000 off gumtree. Then google 5 by 5 and commit to 4 days training at 40 mins each. You see weekly results in your power and therefore this will challenge you. Thats how i maintain my god-like figure year round.
i replaced nemo today in 8 to 12m, now off for a nap before this wind kicks in.

Man I needed a laugh, great posts.

Yeh I had the two in nappies. Yeh I put on a few kilos as well, little sleep, no money, no time and the woman I married just became this .... weird incarnation of the person I married.

So expect all of that. It is what it is.

But this too shall pass.

In the meantime stretching everyday (turn off the damn TV) and some light workouts here and there to keep yourself supple. Don't expect to be a fitness warrior now.

Still negotiate (assertively, even if she thinks you are an assehole, which she will) some water time for yourself with the missus because a grumpy, despondent pissed off man can be a dangerous entity.

Or just drink more and/ or take up a cocaine habit to fill the void.

ps just read plummets post, spot on.

a women (especially a mother) is a bottomless pit when it comes to your time. They will take it all if you give it and still want more.

Sometimes you gotta just be a runt starting with a c.

oh and ignore all the dipsh1ts without children they couldn't even begin to understand what ya going through. Not even a glimpse of understanding.

Would i do it again knowing what I know now ?

Probbaly not ... bahahhahahahhahahahahahhahah

Since when did Seabreeze become Cleo for men?

Adoption is the answer..
and also legal....lol

We all have our problems...
Like today for me i was "forced".... to decide on a 5 ft surf break...
Or
A flat water sesh...

I finally decided on the beach sesh...then when i walk to the spot i pumped up at...the sand was very hot.... so afterwards i had to buy cold beer.

Prolly be the same tomorrow ...

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NorthernKitesAUS said..
Don't despair Unders... look at it this way... you and Sibbo can run off together into the kite sunset when it all gets too much!

I've been trying to get him to sell his kid, worth heaps to old rich guys - apparently they look after them real well.

Zwift. You can smash out a ride whenever, and it's crazy addictive even though it looks stupid... No cars to get hit by, kids love watching it and when they get bigger they can choose your route and give thumbs up to people. Doesn't sound like much but occupies my girls for hours (and me).

also +1 on carving out some kiting time, once your partner realises that it chills you out and you're a less irritable prick she should be onboard...

Move to Townsville,
the beach walk back to your launch point will see that weight dropping off you
Or make more kids, but that's a viscous circle

Dude, ive got two squids, one just started uni, but i reckon get the next one underway real soon coz in a couple a years time theyl be entertaining each other which takes the pressure off. Encourage the misus to take some time for herself to get out and do something, then she wont mind when you do the same.
try to kite when its definately on and dont be gone all arvo.
lastly come home in an awsome mood so she can see how good it is for you.

Get your wife into kiting. While you have to take turns, at least you end up spending the weekends on the beach and with the tribe. Also, sell the sports car or motorbike, and use the space in the garage for a home gym and indoor bike. When the wife tries to get the little one to sleep (they love cuddling up early with the little terrors), that's when you have your hour or two by yourself, burning that six pack covering jelly. So much better than watching TV and eating shyte

I dunno man. I think the initially it's better if the missis doesn't kite. The worst place for a baby is a wind swept beach. If your partner kites you will have to share the wind. You might miss out on Epic days because it's your turn to watch the baby.

If she doesn't kite you can milk as much of the wind as practical.

Then when kids are old enough to learn themselves or at least swim at the beach then it's time for the missis to learn.

The holy Grail is to teach your kids to kite. Then kiting time becomes family time............,