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Carantoc said...

Wahine said..

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Is it time to move on?

If you are under 50 or over 51 then of course it is time to move on. It should always be time to move on.

Don't get stuck where you are. If you don't like it when you move on then you can just move on some more.

Gotta get up, gotta get out, grab the world by the throat and shout.

and never look back

Amazing words Carantoc. Thank you.

Here I am now entertain me! People expect friendship but don't offer it, iv found city people very friendly if you just stop walking and face them. Say hello as if you mean it and watch there eyes light up. We've become so withdrawn in Australia and why? Are we afraid of commitment, no spare time to shoot the breeze?

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Mr Milk said..

If your local supermarket is big enough to stock a reasonably large range of blue cheeses, stay there.

For the culture?

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Buster fin said..

Mr Milk said..

If your local supermarket is big enough to stock a reasonably large range of blue cheeses, stay there.

For the culture?

Yes, best way to get penicillin that I know

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Dezman said..

Here I am now entertain me! People expect friendship but don't offer it, iv found city people very friendly if you just stop walking and face them. Say hello as if you mean it and watch there eyes light up. We've become so withdrawn in Australia and why? Are we afraid of commitment, no spare time to shoot the breeze?

I think its because in a large community you are relatively anonymous. If you do something bad, no one will take much notice. If you are a nice person, people don't know. Unfortunately its the idiots that seem to want to make themselves known to you by doing something stupid, so people assume that most people are idiots. So, they are not interested in talking to them.

I live in an area where there are a lot of units. People do selfish stuff that I am sure individually they wouldn't do. Why? They know they will get away with it and no one will pull them up and say 'hey why did you do that'.

In a smaller community, or less dense areas, there are going to be lots of people who know you, know where you live, know someone that is in your family. You can't get away with much without someone knowing about it.

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Pitbull said..

When living in a small town and you happen to meet someone, ALWAYS check the family tree. You don't want to end up snogging your cousin.

A practice frowned upon in mainland Australia...

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Wahine said..

Thanks for all your advice on picking up While I am single, I really wasn't just talking about that kind of company - more the stuff FormulaNova talks about when his friends lived in a small town. I don't think you can force finding someone - if it happens, it happens. But I don't think being single should mean the only time you have any company is while you're at work?

try some sports (should still be clubs in small towns)
join a religion
learn to play bridge
Sit on your front steps and talk to the people that pass by
lay in a park and watch the cricket on Saturday

pump up the footy and play kick to kick with the local kids. where theres kids, there be milfs.

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wallyflop said..

pump up the footy and play kick to kick with the local kids. where theres kids, there be milfs.

Umm, I think Wahine might be looking for a dilf?

Thanks Chris - yes!!

3,500 people, average age from the census stats is mid 50s, more than an hour to the nearest centre over 10,000. All the organised sport is during business hours because most participants are retirees. I think Carantoc has it right.

I love living in the small town (Yeppoon) I grew up in although I do have 4 kids & run my own business. Of course I only came back here after 15 years of thoroughly enjoying city living as a uni student and young adult. Life work balance is pretty damn good for me now although I couldn't imagine being young and single living here knowing that Brisbane was only an eight hour drive away.

Wahine, if you move what are the prospects of finding somewhere to live, work, sail? would you move somewhere where you already have family or friends to open up a greater circle of friends or would you land in a new town starting from scratch?

Over the last 12 years I've moved from Perth to a town of 10,000, then a very remote town of 600, a sweet coastal town of around 1000 an hour from the city, and now a regional centre on the coast. Each move gets harder as you spend a few years getting settled and making new friends, only to turn it upside down, move and start again. The flip side is that I've seen a lot of the state, I have friends all over WA and I've done a lot of things and been to interesting out to of the way places that many only dream of.

If you want to move to meet new people, see new things, sail new places and you are not inherently tied to where you live due to mortgages or close family ties I'd say go for it. Just don't move thinking that it will solve the man problem. With an average age of 50 in your town? so for every 65 year old there is potentially a 35 year old too .

Have you looked at other options where you are other than organised sport? A town that size is sure to have volunteer organisations like the SES, fire services, volunteer ambulance etc etc. They are a great way to meet people from all walks of life. Some of my longest friendships have been established through volunteering, I've met one or two of my past girlfriends the same way and I've seen a few weddings come out of them too.

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Mark _australia said..

Forget Mr Right.

Go for Mr Rightnow

Blokes appreciate it too.

Instead of spending all of your time looking for "Mr Right", why not spend some it trying to be "Miss Right".

Further to that, be sure that you're not your being your own worst problem. Don't take me wrong here. If it's been a perennial problem, it's just possible that the problem is, in some way, you. If that turns out to be the case then there's no point in moving until you've resolved that problem. You'll just take it with you.

I'm not suggesting that you are the problem, but there's no harm in taking a good sober assessment of yourself.

Wahine,
What ever you do DONT move to Newcastle, its a crappy coal city, its got nothing to offer, crap beaches, crap waterways, crap wind, crap vineyards, crap fishing, crap resturants, crap shopping, crap people, crap mtb trails,

crap crap crap

oh i left out we have the crappiest sun rises


iphone pic on the way to work about a week ago.

ps, the jobs here are crap too

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Craig66 said..

Wahine,
What ever you do DONT move to Newcastle, its a crappy coal city, its got nothing to offer, crap beaches, crap waterways, crap wind, crap vineyards, crap fishing, crap resturants, crap shopping, crap people, crap mtb trails,

crap crap crap

...and going by what you wrote, you guys up there don't seem to like girls.... oh well. I guess its good to know these things before she decides to move there.

Funny, I thought the city would have been more that sort of thing, but there ya go.

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FormulaNova said..

Craig66 said..

Wahine,
What ever you do DONT move to Newcastle, its a crappy coal city, its got nothing to offer, crap beaches, crap waterways, crap wind, crap vineyards, crap fishing, crap resturants, crap shopping, crap people, crap mtb trails,

crap crap crap

...and going by what you wrote, you guys up there don't seem to like girls.... oh well. I guess its good to know these things before she decides to move there.

Funny, I thought the city would have been more that sort of thing, but there ya go.

FormulaNova
your way to foxy for this city.

Re not likeing girls....whats a girl ?

but we like Ladies

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Wahine said..

I love small towns, but are they only good for couples, families and recluses?

Just saw the stats for my town - population of 3,500 and average age in the mid 50s. I love it here, but at the risk of sounding like a lonely loser, I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. I guess I don't just mean single, but more broadly alone.

Is it time to move on?

Q 1 = Yes
Q-2 =Yes(not sure about recluses)
Q-3 not really asked , but hey , there is 2,400 were I am , lot's of eye therapy to be had during touro season
Q -4 =maybe ?
Got to remember , sometimes in life going that 1 step further can sometimes make or break your day, week , life.

Cities are great for disappearing into the crowd, being alone without feeling alone. Small towns are great because generally you're not just another face & found them a bit more social (as a community). In either you can have hundreds of friends but when they hit late 20's they become absorbed in their work/home life or just become boring burbs 2.1 kids toyota prado sort of folk. I think in either small town or city unless you get out to meet people (where do you start right) you'll stay alone. When I first started windsurfing a 30ish guy i sailed with wisely said enjoy it & find someone while you can, once you leave school/tafe/uni & stop drinking for fun it becomes very hard to find someone & even harder someone with similar interests. I later found this to be very true.

Personally I hold onto the ideal of be content with yourself, enjoy being on your own & enjoy the interests you have then 1 day someone will come along regardless of where you live. I also believe in santa, the easter bunny & checking under the bed at night

I guess though in city there is larger groups in activities such as windsurfing so potential to interact with people is higher.

It's tough on women for many reasons!
Most hold out to long enjoying the attention in their 20's but when the 30's roll around then they wake up to the fact that the attention is only for sex and not long term anymore.And why should a man commit when after six months the fun is nearly over!
But hey girl you think its bad now wait until the 40's....
The best advice I can give is stop putting makeup on and be interesting!
Friendly, active and doing stuff. It will build confidence and show that you are more than just an old ride at the show grounds.

Lol. Thanks for trying to help Dezman. I'm sure your description is accurate for lots of people but it could not be further off the mark for me. But it did give me a giggle