Using smaller fins is ok, you just lose upwind performance, but you are not there for racing. I was using an rsx 60 cm fin to go across the wind and with smaller sails around 8.7 when wind was over 14 knts. Also before that I just chopped the bottom of an old 70 down to 60. A 70 fin was still manageable until around 16 knts with 10/11 m sails, I am about your weight. You can try and depower the sails with more downhaul and outhaul, use long harness lines and really hang off the boom and out of the board, move straps forward if possible.