Thanks mark! I have a dremel, with many of the attachments, including the one you posted.
The 1:30 is from a document on 'proper' composite repairs document, it suggested 1:30 or even 1:60, which makes sense if you actually trying to 'real' repair, that you might want in a say an aeroplane..., where you are actually trying to lap the fibre layers.
so a 5mm sandwich would need 15cm either side, maybe giving you a couple cm of where the fibres lap.
I am sure I am over thinking it...

My motivation it trying to understand it a little better.
From what I understand the board lady approach is essentially making a strong cap (the new laminate), that has a tiny, tiny bit of overlap on the bottom fibre layer, and a lot of overlap on the top fibre layer.
Which as you point out, seems to work very well!
In my case its cracks on the deck, on a very light board, where I believe it would be the bottom fibre layer that failed first, probably just from a heavy foot. Hence my question on how easy is it to get to the bottom layer of fibres.