Thanks for all the replies, Its got me thinking for sure.
As for the volume calculator, the firewire site talks about me at 96 kilos riding 42 to 45 l which i find ridiculous. The Dom is 6'2" and about 37 l from memory so i can't see it being over volume. I tend to agree about the tail and maybe i should have grabbed a Spitfire instead? I wanted this board as i said for when it was a little messier so its not doing what i want ATM..
I will preserver some more though. I know the fins are too small, even though they have done what i wanted (loosen it up) so will try a large again but in a different fin then i first tried. Originally i tried the tech flex but they felt too stiff and were all wrong, i will try my Honeycomb back in. I did find the medium Jordies made it much easier to make tight turns at the top of the wave and gripped well, its just the bottom turn it slide out on me so i liked how they felt when up and going..
I really want a fin in large that has less hold?
I have a set of quads Simon Anderson's but i feel that would make it harder to turn again so maybe a smaller rear set would help, is that how it works?
As i said some waves it goes great and then the next one is just big slide and face plant, but will try and get used to that somehow.
I will remove the tail pad. I think it is too far forward and thanks for that advise. (lets hope this is the easy answer i'm wanting). i had actually thought about no pad (as i tend to kick my toe on the kicker) but i do like the feel of knowing my foot is sitting in the right spot. For some reason it gives me that extra confidence into turns...
I really need time to sit at the beach and just try different things, problem with that is who has the time these days

Thanks again..